I'm sitting here looking out the window. Dave has spent a fair amount of time and effort to clear off part of the pond and river and it's nice to sit and look at. The trees are starting to leaf out, too, and the view of the mountains (right now snow topped from the snow we've had the last two days) will soon be obscured by them. It looks like a pleasant day--but I can hear the wind starting to kick up and it's cold. Alexa says it's 54F and that tonight it's going to freeze again. Spring is a big mashup this year so far.
I spent part of the morning doing the online French lessons and then Dave and I cleaned one of the bathrooms. I've fallen way down on housecleaning tasks. It has gotten really bad since Christmas--worse when Rudy died. Clearing out his apartment did me in--Dave, too, I'm sure--and then putting away all our Christmas stuff...and then after all that, it was time to sit and just go blank. And that's still going on. It's going on in its usual way, though, the way where enough of you gets up and goes out to meet your obligations in one way or another, but underneath all that competence there is a river of endless grief. So that's a thing I'm dealing with these days.
Along with all that there is something hormonal going on, something that messes with my sleep and makes it so that I can't remember the names of things and I feel dizzy and I cry over things I never would have cried over in the past and I feel incredibly anxious. Probably just more menopause. There are close to 100 symptoms associated with menopause (hot flashes are just the beginning) and I have a host of them. I don't have very bad hot flashes though, funnily enough (probably because I consume a lot of soy).
That's a lot of complaining. Some good things:
I'm still reading, soon to finish the Rue McClanahan autobiography. She's funny and not afraid to name names except in a very few instances (though it's easy enough to jump onto google and figure out who her abusive third husband was). I'm still watching guys deliver food all over London. I'm still sewing a few stitches from time to time, letting things filter through the brain. I'm still journaling in my paper journal near daily.
We've been eating the majority of our meals at home, which is healthier for me than ordering takeout four times a week, given the low sodium diet I'm supposed to be on. Dave baked two kinds of bread yesterday, too, my dinkelbrot and a really nice focaccia-like bread that was all white flour and olive oil and air. We had sandwiches for lunch today (I had roast beef and Swiss on the dinkelbrot and Dave had cheese and tomato on the focaccia). So that's a good thing.
I've been in contact with the office of a surgeon in Miami who does breast reductions. She is unlike many surgeons in that she doesn't have a BMI cutoff for the surgery, so I'm going to have a preliminary/introductory phone call with the office hopefully this week. Sometime this year, I'd like to have the surgery done, even though it will mean going to Miami and staying in a hospital, which is terrifying. But it's something I've wanted to do for a long time and I'm not getting any younger. A friend of mine (my same age) recently had top surgery and is loving the results and I'm so ready to do the same.
One of the nurses at the hospital used to use the line, "Get busy living or get busy dying" (which, according to google is from Shawshank Redemption, so maybe from Stephen King?). These days, I'm trying to do more one than the other.